We will hear and say ‘Happy New Year’ so frequently currently of year – but rarely do we consider what it really means to us, and the individuals to whom we say it.
We are all unique individuals with our personal unique needs and desires; and most of us are united within our quest for the same thing – to feel Happy New Year. Many of us are striving for this state of ‘happiness’; and yet lots of people are looking in the wrong location for it – and settling to get a temporary mood-enhancer in the form of alcohol, drugs, a new relationship, or new possessions.
Magazines are filled with ‘New Year New You’ advice from so-called experts – almost all of which can be just plain sound judgment! No one else will be the expert upon you! Only you know – or are trying to pin-down – what brings you personal happiness. One person’s happiness is yet another person’s burden.
If you now consider what actually brings people happiness it might range from finding shelter and food; to getting a make-over/fake-tan/fake-nails etc., buying new ‘toys/gadgets’, right to showing love, care and compassion to others. As broad a spectrum as it is observed in general society.
Happiness to suit your needs depends upon your own amount of personal and spiritual awareness, as well as your ability to create happiness being a state of mind that you can go back to at will – despite life’s relentless disappointments and challenges.
It is far from enough to merely ‘think’ or ‘imagine’ yourself for being happy – you can’t fool yourself that easily!
What most of us don’t realise is the fact that we now have two mind-sets about everything in life, and these two minds can attend odds with one another. This conflict can are the degrees of happiness we have been ‘allowed’ to enjoy.
Our conscious/rational/observing mind can desire and seek greater happiness; but when our sub-conscious mind doesn’t feel that we deserve it, or that people would reap the benefits of it – it just isn’t planning to come our way. Our outer lives are only ever a reflection of our inner and deeper sub-conscious belief system. Self-help books and talking therapies tend not to access or change these deeper ‘Script’ beliefs.
Being around happy, optimistic, warm and friendly people positively affects us too – as does the opposite. This is known as ‘Emotional Contagion’ – in fact it is worth reflecting upon what ‘mood’ or ‘energy’ we ourselves hand out that subsequently affects those around us.
We have neurons inside our brains called Mirror Neurons which can create in us the emotion we are witnessing outside us. For example whenever we see someone stub their toe or trap their finger, we are instinctively programmed to feel something similar. This connection surpasses mere ’empathy’, or of recalling personal memories of comparable things having happened to us before. We have been significantly afflicted with being around Merry Christmas 2019 Messages, whose emotions we then ‘mirror’ in ourselves.
Don’t however be fooled by a ‘happy mask’ that someone may be wearing; that will be a false-self they present to the world as an try to hide their real feelings and needs. This may well have already been set up in childhood in the event it was encouraged and expected which they ‘put-on-a-happy face’ for that family’s sake; as well as stuff down their real feelings such as anger, resentment, disappointment, fear, sadness and despair – that was real, but ‘unacceptable’ from the family/care-giver.
So many people are so used to wearing a mask that they cannot imagine an existence without one, or how to get them back! Their eyes will most likely offer the game away concerning their underlying feelings, as will an unguarded moment and comment, if another person is sensitive enough to observe these ‘slips’.
Everyone has a ‘base-line’ level of happiness at any given stage within our lives – that is formed from our past experiences as well as the meaning we gave in their mind; not to mention the consequences these have gotten upon our sub-conscious mind and also the ‘program’ we have been running.
This base-line represents only 40% in the full level of happiness we are capable of experiencing on the present time. A further 10% can range from external ‘lucky’ events including the lottery win; or a big new purchase; or kkywim cosmetic plastic surgery etc. These ‘highs’ are unfortunately only temporary so we soon go back to our base level once more.
The particular good news though would be that the remaining 40% of happiness open to you – comes from YOU! This is scientifically validated and forms a central element of Positive Psychology.
You will find 12 ways of facilitating more happiness from your own actions and thoughts, and by the releasing your personal blockages. Many of these ways include figuring out how to establish a more optimistic and focused strategy to life; to keep up your healthy mind and spirit, and allowing gratitude and forgiveness to you. These sound simple but in fact are profound and life-changing. Enhancing your overall, and sustained, happiness positively effects every cell within your body and consequently your genetic expression (Epi-genetics); and for that reason your lifespan.
Deeper and sustained Happiness equates to some calmness in the mind… observing what is, rather than forcing change… reflecting, surrendering and allowing; as opposed to worrying, over-thinking and mind-chatter. To view the Happy New Year Images in every single tiny moment rather than only focusing ahead of the present time; or dwelling within the unchangeable past. The sole time you actually have is this moment and the next breath. Get the most from these whilst you still have them.